Day 30, 30 Days of Me

Day 30: List 10 things you would hope to be remembered for.

  1. Loyalty, compassion, and love for my friends and family.
  2. Through children and husband that I one day hope to have: being a good mother and wife
  3. Work ethic and success in my professional career.
  4. Writing, whether it be on the DL or published professionally.
  5. Commitment to public service and making our world a better place, however I can.
  6. Kindness towards strangers.
  7. Someone who didn’t hold back and lived life to the fullest: my senses of adventure and humor.

I really don’t know, otherwise. I want to live my life without regrets, cultivate strong relationships, and hope that I have a positive impact on the people and world around me.

Good relevant quotes:

I want to be remembered as the girl who always smiles even when her heart is broken, and the one that could always brighten up your day even if she couldn’t brighten her own. -Unknown.

I don’t want to be remembered. I want the nice words when I can hear them. -Jerry Lewis

Tiffany, over at Live.Learn.Love.Eat, wrote a great post on this, and the following are things that I second from her list:

  • Inspired others to live a life they love
  • Appreciated the simple things in life
  • Respected others opinions
  • Set goals and was determined to keep growing, changing and learning
  • Happy and excited for what life would hold
  • Valued time with family and friends

Day 29, 30 Days of Me

Day 29: What do you think people misunderstand most about you?

I think people take my serious nature regarding work, school, rules, etc. to mean I’m someone who doesn’t know how to have fun.

I think people take my involvement in kinky shit to mean I have loose morals or am a crazy slut.

I think people take my easy-to-read, natural reactions to mean my emotions and thoughts are easy to read.

I think people take my organizational abilities, logistics skills, and leadership experience (type-A) to mean I’m Dominant and type-A in all situations, or unable to take any other role – including submissive – in my personal life.

Day 28, 30 Days of Me

Day 28: What is your love language?

I already wrote on this: .

Or, for a snippet:

My receiving love language is (1) quality time, followed closely by (2) physical touch, with (3) words of affirmation in third. Without the first two, I won’t believe the third, but without the third I won’t be entirely fulfilled.

My giving love languages are quality time and acts of service, followed somewhat more distantly by physical touch. I stay really busy and highly value my time, so when I make time for you it shows I’m prioritizing you; the more time with you, the bigger the priority you are to me. On the service side, call it my midwestern upbringing or blame my submissive side, but I like to take care of my partner and do what I can to serve their overall happiness.

Day 27, 30 Days of Me

Day 27: What is your favorite part of your body and why?

I’m not sure it counts as a body part, but I really like my smile. I feel like it reflects my passion and enthusiasm, is genuine, and usually gets a smile or flirt in response. On top of that, a smile is the most straight-forward way to communicate with someone. No matter what language you speak, you understand a smile. It’s positive, and can bring light into the darkness of someone’s day. I like bringing happiness to other people even if it is in small ways.

Day 26, 30 Days of Me

Day 26: What popular notion do you think the world has most wrong?

Anarchism/Extreme Libertarianism.

No government = chaos. We’d have crap roads, crap schools, and more crime. I understand the desire for more freedoms, privatization, and smaller government. I don’t always agree with the policies or implementing them in today’s society, but I fully get the desires behind them. That said, no government at all, I don’t understand.

On the other end, full socialism and communism are “wrong” in my mind too. I feel both of these suppress necessary freedoms.

Day 25, 30 Days of Me

Day 25: If you could have dinner with anyone in history, who would it be and what would you eat?

Cliche, but Jesus Christ. Runners-up include Thomas Jefferson and Winston Churchill. Really though, it’s be great to hear some life lessons and get some perspective from Jesus. As for what we’d eat, who knows! Something involving ovens, probably, because they didn’t have ovens then.

Day 24, 30 Days of Me

Day 24: Describe your family dynamic of your childhood vs. your family dynamic now.

I feel like this is beating a dead horse – I’ve discussed my family, my childhood, etc. a ton by now.

So my family dynamic now…I call home maybe once/twice a week, usually on my way home from work and it’s a brief call. I most frequently talk to my mother, unless I get off work late and my dad is home. I text my sister occasionally. I’m going home for the holiday, and I will likely see my parents again in May/June  for a little bit.

I get along all right with my family now. It’s a bit odd. I enjoy spending time with them, and miss them a great deal. That said, I can’t mentally handle more than a week at a time because of the issues my family members have, both independently and with one another. It becomes too stressful. I generally try to keep the peace, give unbiased advice when asked for it, and enjoy what time I can with them.

In my childhood…I kept the peace, and by doing so neglected my own internal peace. I was the therapist for my mom, the mediator between my mom and sister, the silent companion to my father. I was a lot of things I didn’t always want to be, and I never just was. That about sums that up.